It may come out of nowhere or we may have foreseen it when it was just starting. But no matter how they announce their arrival, problems are always unscheduled and unwelcome.
It can really, really be upsetting for someone who tries hard to do the right things, in the right way, and be responsible for every thing, only to be blindsided by a problem caused by another who seems to be and do the opposite. And it is even more frustrating when the person who brought the problem cannot do anything to solve it, but the problem's consequences affect more than that person, involving us and/or our loved ones.
We can feel trapped but forced to resolve the problem we have tried to avoid all our lives. Because some people make bad decisions, maybe because of ignorance or hardheadedness, we face unpleasant situations that could have been avoided if only people think and act like responsible people do.
At this time, it is very easy to get angry, blame people who cause and bring problems, and hold them responsible for as long as we like. However, this Lifehack article gives a very enlightening message about responsibility and blame. Losing our temper, saying hurtful things, and doing some retaliatory acts will never be good solutions.
Everyone messes up, at one time or another, including us, no matter how hard we try to do right. Five, maybe ten years from now, the problem caused by somebody else may be insignificant, and could have even resulted in some good. But broken relationships will be harder to repair. So, let us be more levelheaded, compassionate and forgiving.
But some may counter that we risk being taken advantaged of, people not really striving to be better, because they know that we will just be forgiving them, certainly there must be a limit to this! That may be true, but some things we can control, others we cannot. So, how many times will we forgive? Seven times? "No, not seven times..." (Mt 18:21) If the roles were reversed, how many times do we want another chance? Yes, every time.
Hi, I'm Joseph Saints. I am an engineer with 10 years combined experience in network engineering, system administration, and project management with the telecoms and IT industry. I am a fan of fantasy and science fiction books and movies. I also enjoy Japanese mecha anime, superhero comic books and movies, and martial arts films.